to a recent survey that measured the graciousness of Singaporeans, it concluded that people living in Singapore are less gracious than before. The fall in graciousness index is attributed to the preoccupation of the rising cost of living, discontentment with the nation’s state of affairs and survival in the ever fast-paced, competitive society. Ironically, while respondents feel that people are less gracious now, they still perceive the Singapore society as a caring and polite one. While many have posted their comments online to join in the discussion on why Singapore is no longer gracious, it is high time to remind ourselves why everyone ought to be gracious and kind to one another. Firstly, being kind yields many physical and mental health benefits according to psychological research as far back as the 1970s. It is recorded that when a person performs an act of kindness, the brain produces dopamine that regulates a variety of functions within his / her brain and body, from regulating blood flow, to eating habits, to learning, to cognitive functioning and to behavior. It also produces endorphins which makes one feel positive and happy. Additionally, when you do an act of kindness such as helping someone carrying their groceries, an emotional bond is created. The body produces oxytocin, a hormone, which will cause the dilation of arteries, thus resulting in a reduction of blood pressure. Simultaneously, by showing compassion, one’s vagus nerve (the longest nerve in the human body which controls inflammation and keeps the cardiovascular system healthy) will become more active. Upon looking at such facts, it is apparent that we are responsible for our own unkindness and unhappiness to a great extent. The most logical thing we all then, should do, is to perform acts of kindness wherever and whenever possible. Being kind is not one that’s overly tedious, nor does it need to be in a big way. Below are some encouragement and suggestions to do so.

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